5句过来人的箴言 让多少年轻人受益匪浅

5 wise lessons: what i wish i knew when i was younger
过来人的5句箴言：年轻的时候懂这些道理就好了
as i recently celebrated another year of life and am entering a new phase of mid-life (whatever that is) i began to contemplate the lessons that i would pass on to my younger self.
最近刚过完生日，人到中年，人生进入了一个新的阶段，我开始思索年轻时候的我学到的经验教训。
whether you are young or young at heart, it is never too late to change — or incorporate some new (and better) practices into your daily life. here are 10 wise lessons that i wish i knew when i was younger:
不管你是真的风华正茂，或是心态年轻，改变，或让自己的生活吸收一些新的更好的尝试，永远为时不晚。下面是我希望我在年轻的时候就懂得的10个道理：
1. don’t worry about what other people think of you.
走自己的路，让别人去说吧。
i used to worry too much what others thought of me, of my decisions and of my actions. eventually, i came to realize that if you’re wasting too much time seeking validation, respect or approval from others, then you won’t have time to accomplish all that you desire. everyone has an opinion, but in reality other’s opinions of you are based more on their history and perceptions than anything you’re actually doing.
我总是会太过担心别人对我的看法，他们会怎么看待我的决定和行为?我后来意识到，如果你把时间浪费在寻求别人的认可、尊重和支持，那你就根本无暇做你自己想做的事。人们都会有自己的看法，但实际上其他人对你的看法更多地基于他们自身的历史和认知，而并不是你实际在做的事情。
2. today is what’s important.
活在当下。
enjoy every moment of today, because you are not guaranteed a tomorrow. don’t put off your dreams. don’t wait to do, try, enjoy all of those “someday” items. if it’s important to you, then do it today. pay attention to what is happening now, to the people around you, to the task at hand and to all of the choices you make today, big and small.
享受今天的每分每秒，因为你无法保证明天就一定会到来。不要拖延自己的梦想，别等到“将来某一天”再去做，去尝试，去享受。如果真的很重要，那就只争朝夕今天就做!关注正在发生的事情，身边的人，手上的工作，关注今天做出的选择，无论大小。
3. let it go.
学会放手。
what happened yesterday is over. those unmet expectations, difficult situations, failures and conflicts are in the past. you can’t change it, so let it go. don’t waste your energy dwelling on anger, resentment or disappointment. it only keeps you stuck in the past and holds you back from moving forward in your life.昨日种种譬如昨日死，那些没有实现的期待，那些艰难困苦、失败和冲突都已成为过去，你无力改变，所以干脆放手。别把自己的精力浪费在纠结着生气、愤恨和失望这些负面情绪上，这些只会让你沉湎过去，让你停滞不前。
4. it’s called work for a reason.
付出总会有回报。
success at anything takes work. when you hear about an overnight success story, don’t forget about all of the work that came before. you may have to do work you do not enjoy and trudge through the trenches of planning, building, refining, moving up, out, over and redefining before you get to the place where success clicks. keep going.
任何成功都需要付出劳动。你所听到的那些一夜成名的故事，不要忘记背后付出的所有劳动和汗水。也许你得做无爱的工作，需要在计划、构建、修改、实施、再修改这一系列琐碎的过程中艰难前行，直到突然有一天成功破天而降。继续前进不要停。
5. believe in yourself.
相信自己。
you are your own worst critic, and so can you be your own best supporter. if you do not have confidence in your own value, abilities and contribution, then nobody else will either. you must have faith in your intrinsic worth. we each have something to offer that is necessary and valuable, though we may not know what that something is.
你是自己最尖刻的批评家，也可以是自己最大的支持者。假如你对自己的价值、能力和贡献都没有信心，那么其他人更不会相信你。要对自己的内在价值有绝对的信念。我们每个人身上都会有一些有价值的东西可以给予，可能我们自己都不知道。